50 Shades of Orgasms

Sunday, 26 February 2017

The crew at The Manor have been discussing the New 50 Shades Darker movie. Reviews are mixed, and with the exception of a few brief sex scenes, the general consensus was a thumb’s down. However, we do know that a new spreader bar is on its way to The Manor as we speak!

While the film was not our cup of tea, we have plenty of experience with BDSM and darker experiences here at eSb and as usual, Essemoh had the most to say, so we let him take it from here:

“Over the past near decade of developing and practicing Directed Erotic Visualisation©, I have worked with many women, a few men and some couples to explore their sexual boundaries. In most cases, we have discovered that these 'boundaries' are often fantasies in themselves, practices or experiences that have stood in the mind as 'places where I could not possibly go, just too dirty/naughty/bad/wrong' (circle as applicable.)

In most cases, when working through an individual's sexual desires and what really turns them inside out with pleasure, these boundaries have turned out not to have been barriers at all. Instead they have developed into potential playgrounds, 'forbidden fantasies', looked on with some longing and feelings of, 'if only I could...'

Some of the more common kinks, almost mainstream in these times, are as you would expect, spanking, bondage, submission, pleasure/pain and exhibitionism. There are the equally popular fantasy sex scenarios such as The Teacher, The Doctor, The Work Colleague and the Very Sexy Stranger in a Bar. Many, if not all have featured in our fantasies at some point.

Others, less common, but no less powerful have been collaring, sexual slavery/sex toy, branding, needle and blade play, extreme tattooing and sex with non-humans. The latter (from experience) ranges from mythical creatures such as Dragons, Weres, Vampires and even Unicorns; through more usually encountered creatures, including Dolphins, to the Japanese Hentai (which roughly translates as 'pervert') Anime inspired Alien Tentacle sex.

In the sex toy industry, they talk of the '50SOG moment'. Something that brought 'transgressive' sex play into mainstream discussion and the acceptability of owning and more importantly, using sex toys for pleasure. That was not really a single point in time, the changes in thinking had been decades in the making. It just needed a trigger to flip it from hushed giggles and restroom whispers to open discussions at the supermarket checkout. Now we discuss much of this under the umbrella of 'sexual well-being'. This is a more culturally acceptable way of saying 'I want to come, a lot harder and more often than I am now'.

'Hurting' can be erotic, 'harming' is unacceptable. This is another way of stating the BDSM community's mantra of 'safe, sane and consensual.' This is a useful guide, but we encounter the spectrum of practice and desire where it is often the submissive driving the process. The desire to be subjected to experiences of sexual degradation and erotic humiliation can seem to some as 'a step too far…' It is the issue of control that is often missed or not appreciated.

From experience, some of the most together and capable women, women who run enterprises and who hold responsible, socially respected positions feel the need to be 'out of control'. To be placed in the position of having 'no choice' but to engage in wild, dirty sex and to scream in multiple orgasm while biting and being bitten back can be very freeing.

To be 'forced' to do erotic things to and have sex with…anyone, or anything, to not have to make the judgements and decisions, to not be responsible (It's not my fault, I had no choice…) can be highly charged erotically and very, very pleasurable. This is not about consent, it is about consenting to have that decision taken away for a time, to just experience the erotic sensations and not have to think about boundaries, barriers, culture or what our colleagues, friends or family may have to say on the matter.

In terms of Directed Erotic Visualisation© the opportunities to explore these Borderlands of Forbidden Fantasy are endless.  Where else can one find a Vampire, a shapeshifter or a many tentacles alien monster to have sex with? Where does one go that is safe to be tied up, helpless to resist and taken inexorably by a mechanical dildo? Where can one have sex with a Dolphin or be wined and dined and made love to all night long in a comfortable hotel room?

What would be your 'If only I could…?”

Here is a list of just a few of the kink and fetish experiences available:

Bad Boy, Jezebel in Charge - For men, experience the severe attentions of a dominatrix

Don’t You Dare! - For men, edgy orgasm denial and submission

Fantasy Sex for Men - Your chance to have three of your dream women, Nurse, Teacher and Secretary

Surrender & Submission - For women, a trio of experiences in which to be dominated, taken and used

Bite Me and Make You Mine - Vampire experiences for women, the Undead are just dying to make you come

Dragon Sexxx, The Guardian, Swimming with Dolphins - For women, a lust filled and powerful creature wants you. Part of the Fantastic Beasts Series

Surrender Yourself - For Gay men, a Vampire wants you in the worst way

Nymphs & Fairies - For Lesbian women, bound, helpless and ravished by mythical creatures

Behind the DoorSeries - Not for the feint of heart. Choose a door and find what waits for your there. Needlepoint, Rose Vase, Candlework or the Library

Give some of them a try, discover if your boundaries are quite where you thought they were. Or perhaps you could open your personal doorway to a whole new world of pleasure and orgasmic experiences. Go on, surrender to the inevitable, you really don’t have any choice…

And if you can't find what you are looking for, you only need to ask. Contact us  with suggestions or ideas for a personalised audio.

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