Bits and Boobs
Bits and Bobs: Basic Anatomy
How do I look?
We are not medical doctors or scientists, but we would like to just go over the basic anatomy of the male and female. The appearance, shape, and size of genitals vary from person to person as much as the shape and size of other body parts. There has been much controversy surrounding designer genitals. Is my pussy pretty enough? Does my cock look impressive? Manscaping, vajazzling, surgical correction or purely aesthetic plastic surgery. Rest assured that our differences make us special. You are special and so are your genitals.
The very best way to understand your body is by self-exploration. Turn up the lights, grab a mirror and explore. Once you know your own body you will be better able to ask for what you need. Of course the single best way to understand your body is to masturbate regularly. Try to choose times when you are not overly aroused so that you can vary the approach and experiment.
Filming yourself or using a mirror can also be helpful to understand how your body reacts to different circumstances. Don’t forget to also check your facial expressions through different levels of arousal. You may be surprised at the intensity of desire in your eyes. It is good to want our own pleasure in any form it takes.
Pornography may also be helpful especially if you choose a site that has amateur options. Slick, big production porn if full of people with perfect genitals (see above), perfect hair and perfect sex. Or so it seems, remember they do this for a living- and it is far from perfect- sometimes downright impossible for us ‘lay people’! Amateur pornography varies from the basement to the bedroom so find a level you’re comfortable with and use it to get an idea of how wonderfully unique you are. You also might find a new trick or two to try out on your partner. (see World’s Greatest Lover)
The Uterus also known as the womb is located in the women’s pelvis. It is protected by the cervix, a small round bump at the end of the vaginal canal. While the cervix can be stimulated during deep penetration or manually, it sometimes causes discomfort to the woman because of the sensitivity of the nerve endings. The uterus cannot be breached by cervical stimulation so, if our woman enjoys this intense sensation, play without fear.
The vagina connects the uterus to the outside of the body. The walls are made up of muscles that expand and contract. Using these muscles can heighten sensitivity and pleasure during sexual activity. As with all good health recommendations, exercising these muscles by doing Kegels is recommended. Kegels are simply squeezing your internal muscles and releasing them. You may practice the sensation by withholding the flow of urine and releasing. There are many fine products available now to assist with toning your pelvic floor. Various types of weighted balls inserted into the vagina are worn to increase muscle tone. The thin membrane separating the vagina from the rectum may be particularly sensitive, especially when experimenting with double penetration.
About a third of the way up from the vaginal opening, on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina is an area known as the Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot. Many women experience intensely pleasurable sensations when this area is stimulated. There are differences of opinion over whether the G-spot is a distinct anatomical structure or whether the pleasure felt when the area is stimulated is due to its closeness to the bulbs of the clitoris. Stimulating the small pad of flesh, which swells with arousal using a come hither motion can result in spectacular orgasms. (See Squirting 101).
The vulva includes the mons pubis (labia majora (outer lips), labia minora (inner lips), clitoris, and the external openings of the urethra and vagina.
The mons lies over the joint of the pubic bones, which are part of the pelvis, or hip girdle. The fatty tissue of the mons pubis also continues between your legs to form two labia majora, the outer lips of the vulva.
The labia majora surround the labia minora which are hairless and very sensitive to touch. If you spread apart the inner lips, and you’ll see that they protect a delicate area between them. This is the vestibule.
Below the mons, the inner lips join to form a soft fold of skin, or hood, over and covering the glans, or tip of the clitoris. This is called the clitoral hood. The glans is the spot most sensitive to sexual stimulation. Many people confuse the glans with the entire clitoris, but it is simply the most visible part.
Extending from the hood up to the pubic bones, you can now feel a movable rod right under the skin. This is the body or shaft of the clitoris. It is connected to the bone by a suspensory ligament. At the point where you no longer feel the shaft of the clitoris, it divides into two parts, to form the crura, the two anchoring wing tips of erectile tissue that attach to the pelvic bones.
Starting from where the shaft and crura meet, and continuing down along the sides of the vestibule, are two bundles of erectile tissue called the bulbs of the vestibule. The bulbs, along with the whole clitoris (glans, shaft, crura), become firm and filled with blood during sexual arousal, as do the walls of the vagina.
Both the crura of the clitoris and the bulbs of the vestibule are covered in muscle tissue. This muscle helps to create tension and fullness during arousal and contracts during orgasm, playing an important role in the involuntary spasms felt at that time. The clitoris and vestibular bulbs are the only organs in the body solely for sexual sensation and arousal.
The Bartholin’s glands are two small rounded bodies on either side of the vaginal opening near the bottom of the vestibule. They secrete a small amount of fluid during arousal. If you keep the inner lips spread and pull the hood of the clitoris back again, you will notice that the inner lips attach to the underside of the clitoris. Right below this attachment you will see a small dot or slit. This is the urinary opening, the outer opening of the urethra, a short thin tube leading to your bladder.
Boobs, boobs and more boobs
We all have them. They are all different –usually including the size of the right from the left! We are introduced to them at birth, they provide nourishment, and comfort, yet still we are endlessly fascinated by them. Why? Well, we will not discuss the Freudian possibilities or delve in to the censorship of nudity. They are quite simply, beautiful and they provide pleasure to the giver and receiver. I think we are done here.
The penis consists of three parts: the root, which attaches to the wall of the abdomen, the body, or shaft, and the glans. The glans, also called the head of the penis, is sometimes covered with a loose layer of skin called foreskin. This skin is sometimes removed in a procedure called circumcision.(see Cut or Uncut) The opening of the urethra, the tube that transports semen and urine, is at the tip of the penis. The body of the penis consists of three chambers made up of a sponge-like tissue with thousands of large spaces that fill with blood and cause an erection to form.
The Frenulum is a small ridge of skin just below the glans and is highly sensitive to stimulation. Remember this!
The Scrotum: This is the loose pouch-like sac of skin that hangs behind and below the penis. It contains the testicles (also called testes), as well as many nerves and blood vessels. The scrotum acts as a "climate control system" for the testes. For normal sperm development, the testes must be at a temperature slightly cooler than body temperature. Special muscles in the wall of the scrotum allow it to contract and relax, moving the testicles closer to the body for warmth or farther away from the body to cool the temperature.
Testicles (testes): These are oval organs about the size of large olives that lie in the scrotum, secured at either end by a structure called the spermatic cord. Most men have two testes. The testes are responsible for making testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, and for generating sperm. Within the testes are coiled masses of tubes called seminiferous tubules. These tubes are responsible for producing sperm cells.
Epididymis: The epididymis is a long, coiled tube that rests on the backside of each testicle. It transports and stores sperm cells that are produced in the testes. It also is the job of the epididymis to bring the sperm to maturity, since the sperm that emerge from the testes are immature and incapable of fertilization. During sexual arousal, contractions force the sperm into the vas deferens.
Vas deferens: The vas deferens is a long, muscular tube that travels from the epididymis into the pelvic cavity, to just behind the bladder. The vas deferens transports mature sperm to the urethra, the tube that carries urine or sperm to outside of the body, in preparation for ejaculation.
Ejaculatory ducts: These are formed by the fusion of the vas deferens and the seminal vesicles (see below). The ejaculatory ducts empty into the urethra.
Urethra: The urethra is the tube that carries urine from the bladder to outside of the body. In males, it has the additional function of ejaculating semen when the man reaches orgasm. When the penis is erect during sex, the flow of urine is blocked from the urethra, allowing only semen to be ejaculated at orgasm.
Seminal vesicles: The seminal vesicles are sac-like pouches that attach to the vas deferens near the base of the bladder. The seminal vesicles produce a sugar-rich fluid (fructose) that provides sperm with a source of energy to help them move. The fluid of the seminal vesicles makes up most of the volume of a man's ejaculatory fluid,
Prostate gland: The prostate gland is a walnut-sized structure that is located below the urinary bladder in front of the rectum. The prostate gland contributes additional fluid to the ejaculate. Prostate fluids also help to nourish the sperm. The urethra, which carries the ejaculate to be expelled during orgasm, runs through the center of the prostate gland.
Perineum: is the area between the testicles and the anus. It is connected inside to the prostate. Many men enjoy having the perneum stimulated , the nerves linking male genatalia are focused in this are and proper assage techniques have been known to promote sexual health and wellness.
Cut or Uncut
Although circumcision has been performed routinely for centuries, with the exception of religious reasons, many parents are now opting out when it comes to this procedure which has been referred to as genital mutilation. Many European countries do not circumsise, but the United States has been an advocate for a long time. Circumcised males are prone to desensitization after years of their glans being exposed to rough fabrics, tight pants and constant friction.
Circumcised males, or uncircumcised males with less sensitivity, may require a firmer hand, more suction and longer stimulation to reach orgasm. Extended foreplay is recommended to increase arousal, blood flow and a sense of urgency. Edging a popular concept, is also helpful. Bringing your partner to the edge of climax and stop long enough to catch a breath before leading them up the ladder again. You will discover just how far you can push your lover and how many times. (See Orgasm Control).
Once thought unclean, uncircumcised males as a rule have more sensitivity, and enjoy the benefits of being self-lubricating. Use the foreskin to stoke the uncut male as intense pressure on the uncovered shaft can sometimes be too much of a good thing.
In the end a penis, is just a penis. And that is a wonderful thing.
Monday, 14 May 2018 | James
Saturday, 12 May 2018 | Kathy
In My Handsí voice and scene setting is perfection. This is going to be an audio I revisit time and time again. So well done.